Being fearful or insecure at the beginning of a relationship is normal. I am a chronic over thinker so I've been there. I've analyzed the texts, pondered over conversations and, yes, even worried a bit about why someone was into me. Even the most confident of people have doubts from time to time.
All that being said, last year I found myself a bit exasperated when a guy I was seeing sent this text to me:
“Why do you even like me?”
Some people might find that question cute, but I did not. I liked him and had made that very clear. But that wasn't enough for him to combat the "she's out of my league" worries and he subsequently sabotaged our potential relationship.
This got me thinking about a little idea in sports called "playing up." It's when you find yourself playing with athletes that are superior to you and in an attempt to play at their level, you change your game. You find that their athleticism unlocks a side of yourself you didn't know you had or a desire within you to improve.
I think we need to start applying this idea to our relationships. If you think the person you are seeing is "out of your league," don’t be intimidated by it. Instead, play up! Change your game–attempt to become the type of person you think they deserve. Chances are, you’ll figure out that you're already the person they deserve (they are choosing to be with you for a reason) or you’ll grow into that type of person.
And please, once you find that person inside of you, hold on to him or her. Be unapologetically confident in who you are. There's nothing more attractive and it's not as scary as you might think.
And to the guy who gave up: I'm sorry you're gone but next time? Take a cue from the pros.